An adage has it that "He who throws pebbles at another asks for rocks in
return". I guess this white lady got more than she bargained for.

Please take a moment and read this. Pretty Deep!
Thumbs up to this black man.

Enjoy.

It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a
Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I'm so glad she
got what she asked for (and more) !!!

Dear Jamie:

I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers.


I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking,
educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Black female's
attitudes about our relationship.

My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women
were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too
mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too
much excess baggage.

Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached
by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If
Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't
they look at themselves and make some changes.I am tired of the dirty
looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to
hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by
them.


Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us, Charles
Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams,
Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi
Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry
Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...I could go on and on.

But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so
hurriedly. Don't be mad with us White women because so many of your men
want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to
treat your men better. If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.


Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA

RESPONSE



Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.

Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated
from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia with
a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a
major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider
myself to be among the ranks of successful black men.

I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to
set the records straight of why black men date white women. Back in the
day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was
because they were considered easy

The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were
very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it
to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone
who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to
the white girls.

Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they
are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of
insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by
the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be
more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and
own bigger houses. Because of this fear, many black men look for a more
docile woman. Someone we can control.

I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how
easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to
set the records straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not
all successful black men date white women.

Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris
Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth 'Babyface' Edmonds,
Samuel L. Jackson, Chris Rock and Barack Obama all married strong black
women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out
of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white
women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.


I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed. Stop
thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess.
Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were
ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves
of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with
clubs. Read your history!

It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food.
It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It
was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during
slavery.
It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers,
husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women
were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman.
And, through all this, They still Rise!

It is because of the black women's strength, elegance, power, love and
beauty that I could never date anyone except my black Queen. It is not
just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not
the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I
love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black
women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity,
their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand
for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach
their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I
have fallen in love with black women.


I honestly believe that your anger is geared more towards jealousy and
envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you
continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so
proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin?
Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with
unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more
voluptuous?

I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what
the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk
over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am
looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be good wife and mother
to my children.
Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am
looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately,
you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.

No offence taken! none given!!

Signed,

Black Royalty



Wow!! We must pass this on to make the day of the Black Queens of our
acquaintances!

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(I'm just an honest white girl with her own ideas about the world.  I find that I am unable to let this email pass.  So here is...)MY OPINION:

I say ALL women are...goddesses...ALL women are strength, elegance, power, love and beauty.  All have inner beauty, strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, integrity, ability to overcome great obstacles, willingness to stand
for what they believe in, and determination to succeed and reach
their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering. ALL have the ability to sacrifice everything for LOVE.
ALL have compassion.  ALL have all these qualities and more.
But they live in a society that doesn't teach them to value themselves first. I know.
It beats you over the head with your own faults and failings.
AND still at some point in a woman's life...ANY woman...she will RISE and come to understand her value and worth.
And once she does...she is NOT going to be kept down anymore.
The colour of her skin is irrelevant.  It is her spirit that matters.  Her heart.

That email set me off.
In fact, it made me mad cause I took it to heart.  I have many black men now who come to chat with me and I like them and even love them.  I don't want to go through life doubting their reasons for coming to me in the first place.
I am neither easy nor docile and controllable. I pity the man who thinks so...no matter the colour of his skin.  I say push me and see what happens.  Deep underneath in places not everyone sees...I am not sweetness and light.  There is dark.  I am aware cause I'm the one who knows her...she and I have been some hard places in this life.

We are all beautiful and we all have value.  That is MY final word!